We choose fruits to have .before eating ,wash it ,watch this,and feel good about this . relationship is just one of this .people choose .taste ,feel . so separation doubt or rejection matters . in various experiences this is really happening __ some relationships ,we do not choose . these are gifted to us ,stays us .any ups and down cant create separation .few are such to understand .
The source for any mental trauma is never the other person, but its your own MIND psyching YOU into believing that you're vulnerable at first, thereby gradually increasing the intensity of suffering as it justifies through illusionary reasons as falsity forms its very foundation with fabrication as prime element - all thanks to the unconscious recess, thus driving one into a life-negative state with violent mood swings followed by depression and onset of suicidal tendencies! Beware of your MIND, for it's not YOU!