Sometimes when you're hurting, it helps to throw yourself at something that will take your weight.

We can only go to the limits of ourselves. Anything more and we give too much away. Then we're not good for anyone.

Denys had a way of seeing everything as if he knew it would never be there exactly the same again. He understood how nothing ever holds still for us, or should. The trick is learning to take things as they come and fully, too, with no resistence or fear, not trying to grip them too tightly or make them bend.