Speaking a painful truth should be done only in love - like wielding a sword with no hilt - it should pain oneself in direct proportion to the amount of force exerted.
love truth hurt peace courage emotion honesty passion wisdom pride pain compassion empathy reason caring mercy sacrifice self-sacrifice judgment bravery feeling humility kindness patience purpose justice ego nice grace karma honor sympathy sensitive nobility pity gentleness apologetics force discernment selfishness sword criticism injustice selflessness sobriety injury reap sow effectiveness arrogance gospel tenderness friendliness considerate inconsiderate cautious careful insensitive harshness bluntness bad-news rebuke reap-what-you-sow hilt painful-truths reproof sacrificial-love sword-of-truth