I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.

This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, 'aw shit, he's up!

Every single time you help somebody stand up you are helping humanity rise.

You can't save everybody. In fact, there are days when I think you can't save anyone. Each person has to save himself first, then you can move in and help. I have found this philosophy does not work during a gun battle, or a knife fight either. Outside of that it works just fine.

And now, for something completely the same:Wasted time and wasted breath,'s what I'll make, until my death.Helping people 'd be as good,but I wouldn't, if I could.For the few that help deserve,have no need, or not the nerve,help from strangers to accept,plus from mine a few have wept.Wept from joy, or from despair,or just from my vengeful stare.Ways I have, to look at stupid,make them see I am not Cupid.Make them see they are in error,for of truth I am a bearer.Most decide I'm just a bear,mauling at them, - like I care.

Your actions will always be what the world sees, but people who choose to see through God's eyes will always have the compassion to understand why.

The pretty ones are usually unhappy. They expect everyone to be enamored of their beauty. How can a person be content when their happiness lies in someone else's hands, ready to be crushed at any moment? Ordinary-looking people are far superior, because they are forced to actually work hard to achieve their goals, instead of expecting people to fall all over themselves to help them.

Why do you feel so powerless? Go spend an hour with ants. Each of those black specks you see is a life. One whole life that you can save, take, or affect in some way. You have the power to make so many lives better. It is within you. Don’t lose sight of that.

I don’t know why everyoneis still trying to find out whether heaven and hell exist.Why do we need more evidence?They exist here on this very Earth.Heaven is standing atop Mount Qasiounoverlooking the Damascene sightswith the wind carrying Qabbani’sdulcet words all around you.And hell is only four hours away in Aleppo where children’s cries drown out the explosions of mortar bombsuntil they lose their voice,their families, and their limbs.Yes, hell certainly does existright now, at this moment,as I pen this poem. And all we’re doingto extinguish this hellfireis sighing, shrugging, liking, and sharing.Tell me: what exactly does that makeus? Are we any better than the gatekeepers of hell?

May we always be burdened with thinking of the suffering of others, for that is what it means to be human.

Helping People is Fun. Getting to a Position to help is Not.

Put down your stones. Why are you breaking the window when God has left the door wide open? If you are afraid, lover, follow me. I will guide the way.

Our daily prayer ought to be: Please universe, help me help myself and help me show others how to help themselves.

The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you, that you didn't know about yourself.

How would your life be different if...You didn’t wait for someone else to fix a problem or social issue? Let today be the day...You take up a cause that you feel in your heart and give your time and efforts towards that cause.

Help someone, you earn a friend. Help someone too much, you make an enemy.

They say faith is taking the first step when you can’t see the whole staircase. Actually, wisdom is seeing the elevator behind it that would have taken you to the top floor.

There comes a time in your life when you can no longer put off choosing. You have to choose one path or the other. You can live safe and be protected by people just like you, or you can stand up and be a leader for what is right. Always, remember this: People never remember the crowd; they remember the one person that had the courage to say and do what no one would do.

Remember to honor the hand which reached out for you when you needed it, by being that hand to someone else who is struggling.

What is life? Life is living in this moment, experiencing and experimenting but experience isn’t life. Life is reflecting and meditating but reflection isn’t life. Life is helping and guiding but philanthropy isn’t life. Life is eating and drinking but food isn’t life. Life is reading and dancing but art isn’t life. Life is kissing and pleasuring but sex isn’t life. Life is winning and losing but competition isn’t life. Life is loving and caring but love isn’t life. Life is birthing and nurturing but children aren’t life. Life is letting go and surrendering but death isn’t life. Life is all these things but all these things aren’t life. Life is always more.

The only way to truly help most drug addicts and most alcoholics is to—instead of them—change reality.

Help does not come from anywhere outside - it comes only from within ourselves.

Every day I wake up and ask myself, ‘How can I accept myself and others more fully?

And then one day you realise that if you want to be rich, you'd have to give away almost everything you own.

Because when everything is said and done... the world runs on kindness. It simply has to, or we'd never be a able to bear ourselves. It might not seem so to you now, but it will when you're older." ~Ariel

Time is valuable in life. You can show someone how much you appreciate them by giving your time. A good amount of time goes by each day. Spending time with the ones you love shows them how much you care.

One of the greatest evils is the foolishness of a good man. For the giving man to withhold helping someone in order to first assure personal fortification is not selfish, but to elude needless self-destruction; martyrdom is only practical when the thought is to die, else a good man faces the consequence of digging a hole from which he cannot escape, and truly helps no one in the long run.

I must be ever so careful to remember that my pain is a precious salve that when used in the service of others can heal a thousand wounds and more. And I must likewise remember that if I do not use it as such, I have done nothing more than wound myself yet again.

There is no doubt that the most effective way to heal my pain is to purposefully put it to work healing the pain in the life of another. But that means I must endure the pain of not focusing on 'my' pain.

A fine glass vase goes from treasure to trash, the moment it is broken. Fortunately, something else happens to you and me. Pick up your pieces. Then, help me gather mine.

Don’t tell me you’re passionate about your job – show me that you’re passionate about helping people like me.

Trust God, He will care for your every need.

In the land where excellence is commended, not envied, where weakness is aided, not mocked, there is no question as to how its inhabitants are all superhuman.

Want to help others? Be yourself. You’ll inspire others to muster the courage to be themselves as well.

The things that may change our world to make better; smiling, helping, respecting, loving & forgiving.

I've said this before, but people love you for so many reasons. Some love you only for what you do for them. Some love you for how much money you spend. Some love you for your possessions. By now, we should know that isn't love, but merely infatuation. Don't be fooled into thinking a person like that is going to hang around once those things are gone.

Being a single mother should not stop you from helping your children to reach their full potential.

Today’s living people are much more important than tomorrow’s yet unborn people! We need to help the people of today before helping the people of tomorrow! We cannot make our plans so as to save the people of distant future by ignoring today’s people!

Pray that you are in the right place, at the right time, to meet the right person, that together you may help one another.

In the end, class will out. So much talk about helping the poor. It's all words and class interest— in the end.

You wanted to become a doctor to help people and feel better at the end of your job, I think, watching them, as the nurse takes my hand. But I don't think you do feel better at the end of the day. You look like humans have constantly disappointed you.

People are screwed up in this world. I'd rather be with someone screwed and open about it than somebody perfect and...you know... ready to explode.

We truly help others working on ourselves. When it comes from the knowledge that the only power we have is over our own choices, we do not struggle taking responsibility for what is not ours to be responsible for. When we choose to be happy our joy works like a lighthouse. The lighthouse does never guide ships to its own light. It always leads them to the safe harbour. Yet it is their choice, whether they want to follow the light or something else.

Everyone breathing is broken. Keep breathing light into them until the stained glass collage takes your breath away.

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that refledts it.

Sometimes all you can do is hug a friend tightly and wish that their pain could be transferred by touch to your own emotional hard drive.

I love to connecting with people to help others who's exactly like you.

True happiness can only be found when you stop worrying about yourself and try to look out for those around you.Helping people can give your life meaning and joy. Don't expect anything in return spread happiness and get peace, there is nothing more valuable than peace..

Ask your friends for help if you need it. Asking for help can be costly if you don't have friends.

Asha stared as Mari for a while, her face once again betraying no emotions. "When we were acolytes, newly come to the Mage Guild Hall on Ihris, Mage Alain once tried to catch me as I fell. He was punished for this." Her gaze went to Alain. "We talked. In the first days. Before such things were driven from us. He was...he could have been...someone...""A friend," Alain said."Friend." Asha seemed to be looking inward now, as if searching for memories lost in time. "What does this mean?"Alain's voice took on more feeling. "It is someone who helps.""Helps?" Asha suddenly inhaled strongly. "I remember. When all else was gone...Alain...helps...helped...me.""We were taught to forget this," Alain said. "Master Mechanic Mari reminded me of what it meant. She has reminded me of many things. She must do something of great importance. Will you help me now, Mage Asha?"Here gaze rested on Alain, then went back to Mari. "This Mechanic helps Mage Alain. I will help, too. I will not betray you to the Guild, Mage Alain.

The only way to help someone is when you know they cannot return you back.Anything else is just business.

When faced with a problem, don't keep on discussing it. Go beyond the mental barrier to resolve it.

Kindness is a magical spell—performed by enlightened beings—meant to enchant hearts and lift weary souls that they might fly.

The day you find out who you are is when you look back and realize that it was never the words, rather your actions that defined you.

The greatest gift you can give is your time.  Not money, not items, not food, not pretty cards with handwritten sentiment, but time.  People need your presence.  The way you can help a soul the most is to simply be there.

Being a leader is not about finding ways to get others to serve you, but knowing how to serve your followers.

There is no real need to save others, because they will help themselves learning from us, when we choose to shine our light of unconditional love. Through our loving examples others can create, for themselves, an opportunity to act the way they are inspired by us.

You will achieve what you want to achieve, only if you can cope with the theory of altruism.

I could really use someone else's smile today.

Love is my decision to make your problem my problem.

Every sunrise is an invitation for us to arise and brighten someone's day.

As a child, I once suffered a bad fall that resulted in scratched palms and scraped knees. I remember how badly it stung, the cold air hitting my bleeding wounds; I felt that I couldn’t stand up for the pain. Through a veil of tears, I recall a kind hand reaching for me and helping me to my feet. My knees and palms were washed clean, and I remember thinking that for the rest of my life, I wanted to help people stand back up.

There is no inner peace found in taking care of me and mine. It is present in attending to the needs of we and ours.

Love is donating a chunk of your life to patch up holes in the life of another.

At times we feel outnumbered in our attempts to improve the world—to brighten and beautify, to preserve and heal and do what’s best for humanity. Selfless efforts can start to feel beleaguering, discouraging, even pointless with so little support. It is at these times I remind myself that I would rather be the last Good Samaritan standing than to join the ranks of selfish multitudes creating misery.

It was happening. At least in that little section of the salon, women were connecting and doing what women knew how to do, show compassion, nurturing—helping someone fit in.

You don't do kind deeds expecting kindness in return. You don't do kind deeds because you deem the recipient worthy. You do kind deeds because it's who you are, and because you understand the powerful difference your gentle hand makes in this dreary world.

The person who is rich is the one who possess kindness, caring, help others when needed, gives things that money can't buy, and spend time with those who need someone to listen to their stories. Sometimes money isn't needed.

When you tend to another's dying embers, you find both warmth and an increase in the glow of your own fire.

Some live for their own joy and pleasure. Some live to ease the burdens of others.  Then there are those who seem to exist for pain's sake only, that in the end the wrathful fire sent to consume their oppressors will be justified."~ In loving memory of Miss Annabelle Fancher

If you truly loved someone you won't become their enemy. You will become their guardian angel.

It seems that many of us have the goal of making other people conform to our desires and expectations, whether or not we would admit to such a thing. We see this especially in parents who get upset because their children don’t conform to their expectations, but instead follow a pattern of development that is unique and individual. We often use language with peers and colleagues that encourages them to change their ways of doing things to our ways of doing things: “You should” and “You ought to” are usually presented as advice, but in the end they really are about changing someone else’s ways of doing things. And we may offer this “advice” in a spirit of love and helpfulness, but we can be much more helpful when we help them to find their own ways of changing things. It can be incredibly freeing to spend an entire day not looking to try to change the behaviors, beliefs, or attitudes of other human beings. If we approach life in this way, we may learn much about the other people in our lives instead of trying to make them be like us.

Helping OthersWhen we live our lives in happy, compassionate and constructive ways we set an example for others, which they may or may not choose to follow. There is no need for convincing anyone to what we know as good for us. Our actions always speak louder than words, as beautiful as they may be. Be yourself riding the wave of change, and you will lighten up assisting many others to do the same if this is what they prefer.

It's frustrating when our best efforts to help people fail. But if we could see life through their weary eyes and experience their trials with the same frayed emotions, we might understand why.

If someone thinks you can help or heal them, and you think you can’t, choose their faith over your doubt.

Sometimes healing comes after helping someone that is going through the same trauma you went through. Help yourself by helping others.

If we stop helping people because we’re afraid, or ambivalent or whatever, then we lose. Let them do evil. I’ll stop them.

You cannot fully understand a person's need until you have endured the same need. As hard as you may try to predict and comprehend their situation and suffering, I guarantee you'll fall short until you've been there.

Ultimately virility is all about helping others express their reluctantly shared feelings while doing so from a safe distance.

My mother said the cure for thinking too much about yourself was helping somebody who was worse off than you.

You will know who truly loves you when you ask them to do an uncoventional favor.

People who help others on a regular basis are ten times more likely to be healthy than people who do not.

I thought... I thought you might..." "Help you? By my grove, I am helping you. You're not starving anymore, are you? <…> You had a dry night's sleep, too, and you're no longer coughing your liver and lights out. Some might count those as mighty gifts indeed.

Many times when we help we do not really serve. . . . Serving is also different from fixing. One of the pioneers of the Human Potential Movement, Abraham Maslow, said, "If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.' Seeing yourself as a fixer may cause you to see brokenness everywhere, to sit in judgment of life itself. When we fix others, we may not see their hidden wholeness or trust the integrity of the life in them. Fixers trust their own expertise. When we serve, we see the unborn wholeness in others; we collaborate with it and strengthen it. Others may then be able to see their wholeness for themselves for the first time.

A tiny spark ignites a flame, just as a helping hand can do the same

Do what you can to help people but have the wisdom to accept your limits.

There are times you find yourself standing by the wayside, watching as someone struggles to dig a well with a spoon, and you wish with all your heart you had arms and a shovel.

I won't lie—I don't

Choose altruism, because selfishism is a lonely, cold, dark hole.

The reality is that doing good unto others actually does more good for you.

Funny thing how when you reach out, people tend to reach right back. Best, then, to make sure your hand is open and not fisted.

Helping others without any expectation and without gain is just as much a gift to yourself as it is to the person you give to.

When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." To this day, especially in times of "disaster," I remember my mother's words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.

Charles is going to be fine," said Annie. "Yep," said Jack with a smile. "He never even knew that it was us who helped him." "That's the best way to help someone, I think," said Annie. "Why?" asked Jack. "Then you know you're not helping them just to get a lot of credit," said Annie. "You're helping because it's the right thing to do.

If we have the power and the means, then we must help.

The grace of service is the spirit of belonging.

A mentoring nurse to new doctors: "Check your own pulse first.

If I am not touching a life, I am not touching life.

Not everyone who has helped or is helping you wanted or wants to help you.

You cannot save everyone. Some people are going to destroy themselves no matter how much you try to help them.

He who helps you in your worst moment well deserves to be your best hero!

When you are in trouble, you are the nearest first person who can help you!

Look at it this way—before any of this wood became parts of the shelves or the desk or the chair, all of it was in pieces—just pieces of wood. But the wood was full of potential. It could be shaped into anything that a carpenter wanted it to be shaped into, turning it into a beautiful finished product. Now, not all carpenters are equal in skill—you know that. If a piece of wood is shaped by a poor carpenter, the finished product will be lacking somehow, in some way."But if that wood is shaped by a master carpenter, then that piece will fit into this world precisely as it’s supposed to fit, whether it be a desktop or a cabinet shelf or a doorstop. And the way that I work wood is the way I try to work with people—with love and attention and caring—so that the wood and the people can reach their potential. And if someone lets you teach them, and is open to what you have to teach, then how can you go wrong?

Real friends, are really hard to come by.

Pondering over your actions is a practical way of helping yourself in the battle against sin.

Being anonymous on help, it's feel's awesome.

You should have know this, Mari, that I would help you."She was smiling again as she wiped her eyes. "Maybe I should have known. But I didn't, Alain. You are a Mage, and sometimes my memories of what happened in the waste and in Ringhmon and at Dorcastle have seemed like some kind of hallucination. I didn't know how you would react when I found you. I was actually...Alain, I was afraid that when I found you I'd discover that you'd gone back to being like you were when we first met. That you'd just look at me as if I didn't exist and walk away. I should have realized that wouldn't happen. I should have known that you'd help without question. You keep saying that truth doesn't exist, buy you are true. There's nothing false about you.

Two poor together are richer than one poor because they can somehow help each other!

Although an act of help done timely, might be small in nature, it is truly larger than the world itself.

Liberals seem to assume that, if you don’t believe in their particular political solutions, then you don’t really care about the people that they claim to want to help.

When I asked for help, no one is there except me. "Helping yourself is a great help you ever get it from anyone".

If you really serious ’bout helpin’ somebody, crawl down in the ditch with ’em, bandage up their wounds, and stick with ’em until they is strong enough to crawl up on your back and get out

We can have anything we want on life, if we just help others to found what they need

Why are you doing this?”“That’s easy. Because I like you.” He grinned. “I like you a lot.”“Why?”“Because you make me smile.”“You’re Addolgar the Cheerful. Everything makes you smile.”“Not everything. And if I want to like you, Braith of the Darkness, I get to like you. Whether you want me to or not.

We don't need a degree to learn the art of giving. We just need a heart.

Sometimes you think you're helping someone up, but they're actually pulling you down. This is the painful dynamic of dealing with someone who is incurably selfish.

Strong people don't put others down... They lift them up.

A stray dog, I might understand," she said. "But this? You are too softhearted."No, Mabry," Ravus said. "I am not." He looked in Val's direction. "I think she wants to die."Maybe you can help her after all," Mabry said. "You're good at helping people die.

Helping others carries its own rewards, the first of which is a return to humanity.

Bryar Kosala just likes helping people, and is good at running things, and when invited to become the world’s Mom she said, “Sure.

Our hands will never be too small for helping those who are in need as long we have the heart to care.

It is in the nature of helping and counselling to be a process moving towards something rather than arriving at a state of completion.

Service to others is the rent you pay for living on this planet.

It is not who you attend school with but who controls the school you attend.

What is buried in the past of one generation falls to the next to claim.

Everyone needs help from everyone.

The entire population of the universe with one trifling exception is composed of others.

The woman who does not choose to love should cut the matter short at once by holding out no hopes to her suitor.

No matter what accomplishments you make somebody helped you.

Until the great mass of the people shall be filled with the sense of responsibility for each other's welfare social justice can never be attained.

The oppressed never free themselves-they do not have the necessary strengths.

I think if I were dying and I heard of an act of injustice it would start me up to a moment's life again.

If you bungle raising your children I don't think whatever else you do matters very much.

My satisfaction comes from my commitment to advancing a better world.

You don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.

What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other?

It is human nature that rules the world not governments and regimes.

Injustice is a sixth sense and rouses all the others.

The service we render others is the rent we pay for our room on earth.

A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good but for neglecting his neighbor's.

In this world we must help one another.

Man absolutely cannot live by himself.

We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.

We have no more right to consume happiness without producing it than to consume wealth without producing it.

In the time we have it is surely our duty to do all the good we can to all the people we can in all the ways we can.

There ain't nothing but one thing wrong with every one of us and that's selfishness.

He who lives only for himself is truly dead to others.

Provision for others is a fundamental responsibility of human life.

Everything that lives lives not alone nor for itself.

A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle.

I see their souls and I hold them in my hands and because I love them they weigh nothing.

Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.

I'm not a competitive person and I think women like me because they don't think I'm competitive just nice.

To be told we are loved is not enough. We must feel loved.

It's never what you say but how you make it sound sincere.

I never fight except against difficulties.

Nothing has happened today except kindness.

If I can stop one heart from breaking I shall not live in vain If I can ease one life the aching Or cool one pain Or help one fainting robin Unto his nest again I shall not live in vain.

The legacy I want to leave is a child-care system that says no kid is going to be left alone or left unsafe.

I think women need kindness more than love. When one human being is kind to another it's a very deep matter.

Life is just a short walk from the cradle to the grave-and it sure behooves us to be kind to one another along the way.

I'm a competitive person but I have never understood people's competitiveness at the expense of their colleagues.

The demand for equal rights in every vocation of life is just and fair but after all the most vital right is the right to love and be loved.

Good manners are the techniques of expressing consideration for the feelings of others

Moments of kindness and reconciliation are worth having even if the parting has to come sooner or later.

If I didn't start painting I would have raised chickens.

Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others by means of love friendship indignation and compassion.

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.

I'd like people to think of me as someone who cares about them.

Tenderness is greater proof of love than the most passionate of vows.

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

Wherever there is a human being there is an opportunity for a kindness.

Kindness is the golden chain by which society is bound together.

The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back.

To nourish children and raise them against odds is in any time any place more valuable than to fix bolts in cars or design nuclear weapons.

Sympathy is the charm of human life.

I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore there be any kindness I can show or any good thing I can do for any fellow being let me do it now ... as I shall not pass this way again.

We bear the world and we make it. ... There was never a great man who had not a great mother-it is hardly an exaggeration.

I wonder why it is that we are not all kinder to each other. ... How much the world needs it! How easily it is done!

Miss no single opportunity of making some small sacrifice here by a smiling look there by a kindly word always doing the smallest right and doing it all for love.

We are made kind by being kind.

Let everyone who has the grace of intelligence fear that because of it he will be judged more heavily if he is negligent.

To be a revolutionary you have to be a human being. You have to care about people who have no power.

Never reach out your hand unless you're willing to extend an arm.

We've got to work to save our children and do it with full respect for the fact that if we do not no one else is going to do it.

Much misconstruction and bitterness are spared to him who thinks naturally upon what he owes to others rather than on what he ought to expect from them.

No matter how lofty you are in your department the responsibility for what your lowliest assistant is doing is yours.

I shall not pass this way again: Then let me now relieve some pain Remove some barrier from the road Or brighten some one's heavy load.

Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself.

As perfume to the flower so is kindness to speech.

In a great romance each person plays a part the other really likes.

Etiquette-a fancy word for simple kindness.

You know we're all going in the same direction or at least trying to. So we need to live together get along together and give each other enough space to be comfortable on that road.

A happy life is made up of little things-a gift sent a letter written a call made a recommendation given transportation provided a cake made a book lent a check sent.

If a man is pictured chopping off a woman's breast it only gets an R rating but if God forbid a man is pictured kissing a woman's breast it gets an X rating. Why is violence more acceptable than tenderness?

One of the most valuable things we can do to heal one another is listen to each other's stories.

It's a rare thing graciousness. The shape of it can be acquired but not I think the substance.

Oh! may each youthful bosom catch the sacred fire.

After the verb "to Love " "to Help" is the most beautiful verb in the world.

Kindness causes us to learn and to forget many things.

There is nothing in life but refraining from hurting others and comforting those that are sad.

Without kindness there can be no true joy.

Wise sayings often fall on barren ground but a kind word is never thrown away.

A kind word is like a Spring day.

Kindness is in our power even when fondness is not.

Kindness affects more than severity.

Always be a little kinder than necessary.

Kindness is the ability to love people more than they deserve.

The sense that someone else cares always helps because it is the sense of love.

Today I bent the truth to be kind and I have no regret for I am far surer of what is kind that I am of what is true.

Kindness I've discovered is everything in life.

What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?

Knowing sorrow well I learn to succor the distressed.

Compassion is the basis of all morality.

Right Now Is the Time to Be Kind You cannot do a kindness too soon for you never know how soon it will be too late.

There's no use in doing a kindness if you do it a day too late.

He who sees a need and waits to be asked for help is as unkind as if he had refused it.

The golden rule is of no use whatsoever unless you realize that it is your move.

He gives twice who gives promptly.

Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves.

Instead of getting hard ourselves and trying to compete women should try to give their best qualities to men- bring them softness teach them how to cry.

It is unfair to hold people responsible for our illusions of them.

The deadliest feeling that can be offered to a woman is pity.

People who won't help others in trouble "because they got into trouble through their own fault" would probably not throw a lifeline to a drowning man until they learned whether he fell in through his own fault or not.

If you judge people you have no time to love them.

Justice and judgment lie often a world apart.

With compassion we see benevolently our own human condition and the condition of our fellow beings. We drop prejudice. We withhold judgment.

A few observations and much reasoning lead to error many observations and a little reasoning to truth.

Nobody who is somebody looks down on anybody.

Reform is born of need not pity.

I am convinced that any feeling of exaltation because we have people under us should be conquered for I am sure that if we enjoy being over people there will be something in our manner which will make them dislike being under us.

It's compassion that makes gods of us.

When God made up this world of ours He made it long and wide And meant that it should shelter all And none should be denied.

I've always thought that people need to feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to them to provide some light along the way.

The finest inheritance you can give a child is to allow it to make its own way completely on its own feet.

A child is a temporarily disabled and stunted version of a larger person whom you will someday know. Your job is to help them overcome the disabilities associated with their size and inexperience so that they get on with being that larger person.

We have to improve life not just for those who have the most skills and those who know how to manipulate the system. But also for and with those who often have so much to give but never get the opportunity.

The most notable fact that culture imprints on women is the sense of our limits. The most important thing one woman can do for another is to illuminate and expand her sense of actual possibilities.

If you want a baby have a new one. Don't baby the old one.

When anything gets freed a zest goes round the world.

If we can't turn the world around we can at least bolster the victims.

If a child is too keep alive his inborn sense of wonder ... he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it rediscovering with him the joy excitement and mystery of the world we live in.

We ought to be doing all we can to make it possible for every child to fulfill his or her God-given potential.

No one has yet realized the wealth of sympathy the kindness and generosity hidden in the soul of a child. The effort of every true education should be to unlock that treasure.

When a person is down in the world an ounce of help is better than a pound of preaching.

The greatest gift is the passion for reading. It is cheap it consoles it distracts it excites it gives you knowledge of the world and experience of a wide kind. It is a moral illumination.

A little help is worth a great deal of pity.

Don't give advice unless you're asked.

Generosity gives assistance rather than advice.

Orthodox criticism ... is a murderer of talent. And because the most modest and sensitive people are the most talented having the most imagination and sympathy these are the first ones to get killed off.

With every deed you are sowing a seed though the harvest you may not see.

Giving kids clothes and food is one thing but it's much more important to teach them that other people besides themselves are important and that the best thing they can do with their lives is to use them in the service of other people.

A child is fed with milk and praise.

Children are forced to live very rapidly in order to live at all. They are given only a few years in which to learn hundreds of thousands of things about life and the planet and themselves.

Live and let live is not enough live and help live is not too much.

To give pleasure to a single heart by a single kind act is better than a thousand head-bowings in prayer.

Establishing lasting peace is the work of education all politics can do is keep us out of war.

Pity costs nothing and ain't worth nothing.

The greatness of the human personality begins at the hour of birth. From this almost mystic affirmation there comes what may seem a strange conclusion: that education must start from birth.

To feel sorry for the needy is not the mark of a Christian-to help them is.

What we remember from childhood we remember forever-permanent ghosts stamped imprinted eternally seen.

I don't believe civilization can do a lot more than educate a person's senses.

'Tis not enough to help the feeble up but to support him after.

A good education is that which prepares us for our future sphere of action and makes us contented with that situation in life in which God in his infinite mercy has seen fit to place us to be perfectly resigned to our lot in life whatever it may be.

Teaching was the hardest work I had ever done and it remains the hardest work I have done to date.

To me education is a leading out of what is already there in the pupil's soul.

To throw obstacles in the way of a complete education is like putting out the eyes.

No other job in the world could possibly dispossess one so completely as this job of teaching. You could stand all day in a laundry for instance still in possession of your mind. But this teaching utterly obliterates you. It cuts right into your being: essentially it takes over your spirit.

Teaching is the royal road to learning.

I think education is power. I think that being able to communicate with people is power. One of my main goals on the planet is to encourage people to empower themselves.

If you feed a man a meal you only feed him for a day-but if you teach a man to grow food you feed him for a lifetime.

People will support that which they help to create.

The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.

Listen long enough and the person will generally come up with an adequate solution.

The truest help we can render an afflicted man is not to take his burden from him but to call out his best energy that he may be able to bear the burden.

A mother is not a person to lean on but a person to make leaning unnecessary.

A wise parent humors the desire for independent action so as to become the friend and advisor when his absolute rule shall cease.

Time and money spent in helping men to do more for themselves is far better than mere giving.

I don't give advice. I can't tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.

Hold up to him his better self his real self that can dare and do and win out. ... People radiate what is in their minds and in their hearts.

The manager cannot share his power with division superintendent or foreman or workman but he can give them opportunities for developing their power.

Once you wake up thought in a man you can never put it to sleep again.

Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.

To know one's self is wisdom but to know one's neighbor is genius.

Gossip is a sort of smoke that comes from the dirty tobacco-pipes of those who diffuse it it proves nothing but the bad taste of the smoker.

There are no little events in life those we think of no consequence may be full of fate and it is at our own risk if we neglect the acquaintances and opportunities that seem to be casually offered and of small importance.

I believe every person has the ability to achieve something important and with that in mind I regard everyone as special.

The fact that we are human beings is infinitely more important than all the peculiarities that distinguish human beings from one another.

The sexes in each species of beings . . . are always true equivalents-equals but not identicals.

To understand another human being you must gain some insight into the conditions which made him what he is.

Like snowflakes the human pattern is never cast twice. We are uncommonly and marvelously intricate in thought and action.

Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back.

Every human being is trying to say something to others. Trying to cry out I am alive notice me! Speak to me! Confirm that I am important that I matter!

The Christian tradition was passed on to me as a great rich mixture a bouillabaisse of human imagination and wonder brewed from the richness of individual lives.

Tyranny and anarchy are alike incompatible with freedom security and the enjoyment of opportunity.

Nature is just enough but men and women must comprehend and accept her suggestions.

The motto should not be: Forgive one another rather understand one another.

Someone has said that it requires less mental effort to condemn than to think.

To have one's individuality completely ignored is like being pushed quite out of life. Like being blown out as one blows out a light.

It's funny how your initial approach to a person can determine your feelings toward them no matter what facts develop later on.

[Tolerance] is the greatest gift of the mind it requires the same effort of the brain that it takes to balance oneself on a bicycle.

To argue over who is the more noble is nothing more than to dispute whether dirt is better for making bricks or for making mortar.

What women want is what men want. They want respect.

All sweeping assertions are erroneous.

Sons branch out but one woman leads to another.

Female friendships that work are relationships in which women help each other belong to themselves.

Women's propensity to share confidences is universal. We confirm our reality by sharing.

Sharing is sometimes more demanding than giving.

We are rich only through what we give and poor only through what we refuse.

Find out how much God has given you and from it take what you need the remainder is needed by others.

[Our children] had the privilege of growing up where they'd raised a lot of food. They were never hungry. They could share their food with people. And so you share your lives with people.

Sharing what you have is more important than what you have.

You cannot always have happiness but you can always give happiness.

That's what I consider true generosity. You give your all and yet you always feel as if it costs you nothing.

You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving.

Be charitable and indulgent to every one but thyself.

Real unselfishness consists in sharing the interests of others.

Purposeful giving is not as apt to deplete one's resources it belongs to that natural order of giving that seems to renew itself even in the act of depletion.

I was hungered and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger and ye took me in: I was naked and ye clothed me: I was sick and ye visited me: I was in prison and ye came unto me.

Generosity with strings is not generosity: it is a deal.

To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving.

To have and not to give is often worse than to steal.

It is more blessed to give than to receive.

God loveth a cheerful giver.

In necessary things unity in doubtful things liberty in all things charity.

Real charity and a real ability never to condemn-the one real virtue-is so often the result of a waking experience that gives a glimpse of what lies beneath things.

We must give alms. Charity wins souls and draws them to virtue.

Did universal charity prevail earth would be a heaven and hell a fable.

I have as little fear that God will damn a man that has charity as I hope that the priests can save one who has not.

Charity. To love human beings in so far as they are nothing. That is to love them as God does.

An institution or reform movement that is not selfish must originate in the recognition of some evil that is adding to the sum of human suffering or diminishing the sum of happiness. I suppose it is a philanthropic movement to try to reverse the process.

In faith and hope the world will disagree but all mankind's concern is charity.

Charity begins at home and usually stays there.

Charity begins at home but should not end there.

Sow good services sweet remembrances will grow from them.

Charity looks at the need not at the cause.

Make the world better.

He is rich who hath enough to be charitable.

He that has no charity deserves no mercy.

Give what you have. To someone else it may be better than you dare to think.

Discipline is a symbol of caring to a child. He needs guidance. If there is love there is no such thing as being too tough with a child.

Even if it's a little thing do something for those who have need of help something for which you get no pay but the privilege of doing it.

Give if thou can an alms if not a sweet and gentle word.

Two thirds of help is to give courage.

It was only a sunny smile And little it cost in the giving. But like morning light it scattered the night And made the day worth living.

The principle was right there-you couldn't miss it. The more you did for your customers the more they did for us.

What boundary ever set limits to the service of mankind?

I hate the giving of the hand unless the whole man accompanies it.

Isn't it better to have men be ungrateful than to miss a chance to do good?

Behold! I do not give lectures on a little charity. When I give I give myself.

To be one woman truly wholly is to be all women. Tend one garden and you will birth worlds.

One filled with joy preaches without preaching.

The only gift is a portion of thyself.

Blessed influence of one truly loving soul on another!

When one is frank one's very presence is a compliment.

There is no greater loan than a sympathetic ear.

Do not inflict your will. Just give love. The soul will take that love and put it where it can best be used.

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

A hurtful act is the transference to others of the degradation which we bear in ourselves.

We are cold to others only when we are dull in ourselves.

As long as you keep a person down some part of you has to be down there to hold him down so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might.

Cruelty is the only sin.

Violence is a symptom of impotence.

The mortal sickness of a mind too unhappy to be kind.

Where there is no capacity to affirm another as a person in his own right there is no love. There is only masked fear.

In real love you want the other person's good.

It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live.

One cannot make oneself but one can sometimes help a little in the making of somebody else.

The habit of being uniformly considerate toward others will bring increased happiness to you.

He who does not live in some degree for others hardly lives for himself.

It is no good to think that other people are out to serve our interests.

Love is a choice-not simply or necessarily a rational choice but rather a willingness to be present to others without pretense or guile.

I wish that every child could have growing space because I think children are a little like plants. If they grow too close together they become thin and sickly and never obtain maximum growth. We need room to grow.

We cannot hold a torch to light another's path without brightening our own.

What I spent is gone what I kept I lost but what I gave away will be mine forever.

An act of goodness is of itself an act of happiness.

There is nothing to make you like other human beings so much as doing things for them.

Happiness ... is achieved only by making others happy.

The most infectiously joyous men and women are those who forget themselves in thinking about others and serving others.

Giving opens the way for receiving.

Nothing liberates our greatness like the desire to help the desire to serve.

He that will not permit his wealth to do any good for others ... cuts himself off from the truest pleasure here and the highest happiness later.

True religion ... is giving and finding one's happiness by bringing happiness into the lives of others.

If you give your life as a wholehearted response to love then love will wholeheartedly respond to you.

Pleasure is a reciprocal no one feels it who does not at the same time give it. To be pleased one must please.

If we had no regard for others' feelings or fortune we would grow cold and indifferent to life itself.

Live for thy neighbor if thou wouldst live for thyself.

The true way to soften one's troubles is to solace those of others.

What we frankly give forever is our own.

Every charitable act is a stepping stone toward heaven.

The human being who lives only for himself finally reaps nothing but unhappiness. Selfishness corrodes. Unselfishness ennobles satisfies. Don't put off the joy derivable from doing helpful kindly things for others.

There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.

Goodness is the only investment that never fails.

Help your brother's boat across and your own will reach the shore.

Be unselfish.... If you think of yourself only you cannot develop because you are choking the source of development which is spiritual expansion through thought for others.

An effort made for the happiness of others lifts us above ourselves.

Happiness ... consists in giving and in serving others.

Doing good is the only certainly happy action of a man's life.

The greatest happiness in the world is to make others happy.

We make a living by what we get but we make a life by what we give.

Only a life lived for others is a life worth while.

To complain that life has no joys while there is a single creature whom we can relieve by our bounty assist by our counsels or enliven by our presence is to lament the loss of that which we possess and is just as rational as to die of thirst with the cup in our hands.

If you have not often felt the joy of doing a kind act you have neglected much and most of all yourself.

As the purse is emptied the heart is filled.

Goodwill to others ... helps build you up. It is good for your body. It makes your blood purer your muscles stronger and your whole form more symmetrical in shape. It is the real elixir of life.

Set about doing good to somebody. Put on your hat and go and visit the sick and poor of your neighborhood inquire into their circumstances and minister to their wants. Seek out the desolate and afflicted and oppressed ... I have often tried this method and have always found it the best medicine for a heavy heart.

We grow by love ... others are our nutriment.

When you learn to live for others they will live for you.

No man is more cheated than the selfish man.

In about the same degree as you are helpful you will be happy.

He that despiseth his neighbor sin-neth but he that hath mercy on the poor happy is he.

The most exquisite pleasure is giving pleasure to others.

Life becomes harder for us when we live for others but it also becomes richer and happier.

Sow good services sweet remembrances will grow from them.

When you cease to make a contribution you begin to die.

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.

When one's own problems are unsolvable and all best efforts are frustrated it is lifesaving to listen to other people's problems.

The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up.

There is no happiness in having or in getting but only in giving.

Do things for others and you'll find your self-consciousness evaporating like morning dew.

There remain times when one can only endure. One lives on one doesn't die and the only thing that one can do is to fill one's mind and time as far as possible with the concerns of other people. It doesn't bring immediate peace but it brings the dawn nearer.

Avarice hoards itself poor charity gives itself rich.

The hearts that never lean must fall.

The people you need to help you make your dream come true are everywhere and within your reach.

Like the body that is made up of different limbs and organs all mortal creatures exist depending upon one another.

It seems sometimes as if one were powerless to do any more from within to overcome troubles and that help must come from without.

The smartest thing I ever said was "Help Me!"

The healthy and strong individual is the one who asks for help when he needs it. Whether he's got an abscess on his knee or in his soul.

The healthy the strong individual is the one who asks for help when he needs it. Whether he has an abscess on his knee or in his soul.

My only advice is to stay aware listen carefully and yell for help if you need it.

Silence is not certain token That no secret grief is there Sorrow which is never spoken Is the heaviest load to bear.

It is true that no one can harm the person who wears armor. But no one can help him either.

Trouble is part of your life and if you don't share it you don't give the person who loves you a chance to love you enough.

Get the knack of getting people to help you and also pitch in yourself.

You really can change the world if you care enough.

Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.

All altruism springs from putting yourself in the other person's place.

A helping word to one in trouble is often like a switch on a railroad track ... an inch between wreck and smooth rolling prosperity.

Often we can help each other most by leaving each other alone at other times we need the hand-grasp and the word of cheer.

If I can stop one heart from breaking I shall not live in vain.

If I am not for myself who will be for me? If I am not for others who am I for? And if not now when?

Believe when you are most unhappy that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain life is not in vain.

Much misconstruction and bitterness are spared to him who thinks naturally upon what he owes to others rather than on what he ought to expect from them.

If we could all hear one another's prayers God might be relieved of some of his burden.

I know some good marriages-marriages where both people are just trying to get through their days by helping each other being good to each other.

The entire sum of existence is the magic of being needed by just one person.

Happiness is the cheapest thing in the world when we buy it for someone else.

Who is the happiest of men? He who values the merits of others and in their pleasure takes joy even as though it were his own.

The race of mankind would perish did they cease to aid each other. We cannot exist without mutual help. All therefore that need aid have a right to ask it from their fellow man and no one who has the power of granting can refuse it without guilt.

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.

Make yourself necessary to somebody.

It is enough that I am of value to somebody today.

And they said one to another We are verily guilty concerning our brother in that we saw the anguish of his soul when he besought us and we would not hear.

A word of kindness is seldom spoken in vain while witty sayings are as easily lost as the pearls slipping from a broken string.

Goodwill... is an immeasurable and tremendous energy the atomic energy of the spirit.

Goodwill is the mightiest practical force in the universe.

Success has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It's what you do for others.

Youth condemns maturity condones.

Really listening and suspending one's own judgment is necessary in order to understand other people on their own terms. As we have noted this is a process that requires trust and builds trust.

"Honesty" without compassion and understanding is not honesty but subtle hostility.

Theories and goals of education don't matter a whit if you do not consider your students to be human beings.

Let our girls feel that we expect something more of them than that they merely look pretty and appear well in society. Teach them that there is a race with special needs which they and only they can help that the world needs and is already asking for their trained and efficient forces.

First teach a person to develop to the point of his limitations and then- pfft!-break the limitations.

You cannot create genius. All you can do is nurture it.

Most convicted felons are just people who were not taken to museums or Broadway musicals as children.

I'm not an American hero. I'm a person who loves children.

Our worth is determined by the good deeds we do rather than by the fine emotions we feel.

Nagging is the repetition of unpalatable truths.

What its children become that will the community become.

Where our bread is concerned it is a material matter. Where our neighbor's bread is concerned it is a spiritual matter.

Teaching was the best way to learn.

Teaching is the greatest act of optimism.

I know that everyone brings to the work his or her own experiences and background and may interpret the piece like a Rorschach in their own way.

Connected knowers do not measure other people's words by some impersonal standard. Their purpose is not to judge but to understand.

Unless one's philosophy is all-inclusive nothing can be understood.

We cannot safely assume that other people's minds work on the same principles as our own. All too often others with whom we come in contact do not reason as we reason or do not value the things we value or are not interested in what interests us.

Nobody really knows Indians who cheat them and treat them badly.

Africa has her mysteries and even a wise man cannot understand them. But a wise man respects them.

Truth has never been can never be contained in any one creed or system.

It's really important that as women we tell our stories. That is what helps seed our imaginations.

If my hands are fully occupied in holding on to something I can neither give nor receive.

For we must share if we would keep that blessing from above Ceasing to give we cease to have such is the law of love.

An unshared life is not living. He who shares does not lessen but great-ens his life.

A cup that is already full cannot have more added to it. In order to receive the further good to which we are entitled we must give of that which we have.

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.

Measure thy life by loss instead of gain Not by the wine drunk but by the wine poured forth.

Be pretty if you can be witty if you must but be gracious if it kills you.

If my hands are fully occupied in holding on to something I can neither give nor receive.

Whoever in trouble and sorrow needs your help give it to him. Whoever in anxiety or fear needs your friendship give it to him. It isn't important whether he likes you. It isn't important whether you approve of his conduct. It isn't important what his creed or nationality may be.

Almsgiving leaves a man just where he was before. Aid restores him to society as an individual worthy of all respect and not as a man with a grievance.

The results of philanthropy are always beyond calculation.

There is no real religious experience that does not express itself in charity.

Kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve.

You can never expect too much of yourself in the matter of giving yourself to others.

Better to expose ourselves to ingratitude than fail in assisting the unfortunate.

Simply give others a bit of yourself a thoughtful act a helpful idea a word of appreciation a lift over a rough spot a sense of understanding a timely suggestion. You take something out of your mind garnished in kindness out of your heart and put it into the other fellow's mind and heart.

Giving presents is a talent to know what a person wants to know when and how to get it to give it lovingly and well.

There are times when sympathy is as necessary as the air we breathe.

In helping others we shall help ourselves for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us.

My happiness derives from knowing the people I love are happy.

Fill the cup of happiness for others and there will be enough overflowing to fill yours to the brim.

The closer I'm bound in love to you the closer I am to free.

Power is the ability to do good things for others.

When their children flourish almost all mothers have a sense of well-being.

To devote a portion of one's leisure to doing something for someone else is one of the highest forms of recreation.

Anything done for another is done for oneself.

Try to forget yourself in the service of others. For when we think too much of ourselves and our own interests we easily become despondent. But when we work for others our efforts return to bless us.

You may not have saved a lot of money in your life but if you have saved a lot of heartaches for other folks you are a pretty rich man.

Unless we give part of ourselves away unless we can live with other people and understand them and help them we are missing the most essential part of our own lives.

Happiness is a by-product of an effort to make someone else happy.

The fragrance of what you give away stays with you.

We all of us need assistance. Those who sustain others themselves want to be sustained.

To help all created things that is the measure of our responsibility to be helped by all that is the measure of our hope.

We not only need to be willing to give but also to be open to receiving from others.

We can't help everyone but everyone can help someone.

I've discovered I'm a strong and capable person. I can handle almost anything except being alone with this.

We want to create an atmosphere in which creation is possible.

It takes wisdom and discernment to minister to people in need. We must look beyond the apparent and seek to meet the needs of the whole person.